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How to Really Love Your Child (Pocket Plan)
This book is one of the best reads for parents, esp parents of two year olds on up! Ross Campbell's realistic views and sensitive demeanor saved my sanity and helped me guide my children in an age appropriate way. I am forever grateful for his work.
How to Really Love Your Child (Pocket Plan)
This book is great! Dr. Campbell uses common sense parenting tips to help us understand where children are coming from, and what makes them feel really loved. Sometimes we may think we are showing them love but they interpret our actions differently.It is a Christian perspective, which is fine with me, but some may want to use his good tips while skipping Biblical references.
How to Really Love Your Child (Pocket Plan)
I wished this book was available when I was a young mother; a must read for parents who want to give the best of themselves to their children.
How to Really Love Your Child (Pocket Plan)
The author has a good understanding of his subject. Mr. Campbell has a positive purpose and moves toward his goal in each chapter.He is encouraging and motivating to parents. He gives them a clear objective: -- how to love your children with wisdom and purpose.He is tangible and practical in his advice and suggestions. He writes with a clear and friendly flow of words that are motivating and easy to grasp. Children, parents and grandparents will reap benefits from applying the sound advice in the pages of this book.ann
How to Really Love Your Child (Pocket Plan)
Many parenting books focus exclusively on discipline. Dr. Campbell advocates a set of four tools that need to be used in order to raise emotionally healthy, secure children. We convey love to children in the following ways (p.37): eye contact (Ch 4), physical contact (Ch5), focused attention (Ch 6), and loving discipline (Ch 9-11)Some interesting notes and quotes from this book:* "Most parents have a feeling of love toward their children and assume that they convey this love to a child. This is the greatest error today" (p. 19).* "Almost every study I know indicates that every child wants to know from his parents, `Do you love me?' A child asks this emotional question mostly in behavior, seldom verbally. The answer to this question is absolutely the most important thing in any child's life" (p. 33).* Unconditional love is the foundation of healthy parent-child relationships. The most important relationships for any parent are (in this order): 1- with God, 2 - with the spouse 3 - with the children. Both the quality of the parent-child bond and the child's security depend on the quality of the marital bond (p. 21)* Inappropriate love (Ch 7) can manifest itself in four ways: possessiveness (p. 70), seductiveness (p. 71), vicariousness (p.75), and role reversal (p. 76).* Every child has an "emotional tank" that can only be filled by love. Only if the emotional tank is full can a child be expected to be at his best and do his best (p. 34).* "Refusing to make eye contact with a child is usually more painful than corporal punishment"(p.40)* "A boy's need for physical contact never ceases, even though the type of physical contact needed does change"(p.50). For girls, it "increases in importance as she becomes older and reaches a zenith at around the age of 11"* "In all my reading and experience, I have never known of one sexually disoriented person who had a warm, loving and affectionate father" (p. 74).* "Far more children suffer from the lack of appropriate love than from exposure to inappropriate love" (p. 78).* "Be careful to use punishment as a last resort and refrain from dumping your anger on your child.... If there are two words that sum up Christlike parenting, they are: pleasant and firm" (p. 83).* "To train children to handle anger maturely, you must, when appropriate, allow them to express it verbally, even if it is unplesant" (p. 88).* "Discipline is training a child in mind and character to enable the child to become a self-controlled, constructive member of society" (p. 90).* Often misbehavior is the direct result of an empty emotional tank. Parents must therefore ask, "What does my child really need right now?" Punishment may be necessary, but it is not the first step (p. 105). Discipline involves four things: requests, commands, rewards, and punishment (p. 111). Punishment is a last resort.* Helping children spiritually (Ch 13): "the first is whether the parents have it themselves! The second is whether they can identify with their parents in such a way as to incorporate and accept parental values. Children who do not feel loved, will find this difficult." (p. 133-134)
How to Really Love Your Child (Pocket Plan)
This book is very well written, easy to read and the most "on target" parenting book ever! Thank you most of all for the inspiring section in Ch. 10, The First Requirement, pages 132-133 of the paperback edition. I have re-read those paragraphs so many times. It's what every child and every adult thirsts for.